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sacback
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Posted: Thu Nov 29th, 2007 03:35 pm |
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| I have two sons and one plays for me and the other plays for another soccer team. He decided not to want to play for me. But the problem is he isn't getting any game time. The coach won't let him play and I want to say something but I can't I don't want to interfer with how he runs his team but at the same time, I know my child is good and he deserves to be on the field. What should I do about this? Should I leave it alone or should I talk to the coach?
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soccertr
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Posted: Tue Dec 4th, 2007 08:27 pm |
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sacback wrote: I have two sons and one plays for me and the other plays for another soccer team. He decided not to want to play for me. But the problem is he isn't getting any game time. The coach won't let him play and I want to say something but I can't I don't want to interfer with how he runs his team but at the same time, I know my child is good and he deserves to be on the field. What should I do about this? Should I leave it alone or should I talk to the coach? I guess I need to know a couple things.
What age is the player and what type of league is this?
If it is a younger league, all players should have pretty much equal playing time.
This will only happen in the younger leagues when a coach forgets it's not about winning, but learning.
In older leagues, such as high school, the better players generally get to play more.
There comes point in age levels when playing time = talent.
However, that should NOT come into play in the younger ages.
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Muz
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Posted: Mon Dec 17th, 2007 08:28 pm |
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I also have two sons playing and also being a coach can be difficult. As soccertr has mentioned there are a number of variables and you need to take the more diplomatic approach initially with the coach. Talking to him/her is the way to go but pose the question something like "I noticed that xxx is not getting much game time lately, is there an area of his soccer that needs some more development that we may be able to work on together".
Regards, Muz
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Jeannette98
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Posted: Wed Jan 23rd, 2008 09:11 pm |
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Before "telling" the coach what you think, a parent should ask the coach what their view of the issue is. More often than not, if the parent listens to what the coach says, they will be surprised. That's because there are always two sides to an issue. It doesn't mean that the parent is "wrong" in their concern, but by listening first the parent shows respect for the coach and does not begin in an adversarial way It's good to remember that both the parents and the coach have the same goals in mind.
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Posted: Sun Feb 17th, 2008 12:46 am |
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I agree with you. I coach 2 boys teams and I would feel better if the question was stated to me that way, than with attitude or like I was not doing my job. I had a situation that happened during a game in which a player was mad he wasn't playing goalie but thought he should be! He was under some impression that he was the greatest goalie in the world but realisticlly he was our 3 choice goalie and we were playing a tough, tight game. Also I want all the boys to play more than one set positon. He didn't want to play the field because he would have to run. Anyways he said some very discouraging things to the team during half and sat there arms crossed pouting. My response was "if you feel that way and can't be a team player and help your team on the field,then you need to go sit with your mother." Which he didn't The Mom got mad at me and left the game immidiatly after the game. When I emailed her about the situation and what happened her response was not a good one. Parents need to be open to the fact that ,we coaches sometimes get to see the ugly side of their children. I try to make sure my players get equal playing time but I do on occasion I get caught up in a game and simply don't realize how much time has passed. Then I realize, poor **** hasn't had his fair share of playing time and time has run out. We arn't perfect and we do make mistakes. It's a tough job that quite frankly no one else wanted to step up and do it.Last edited on Sun Feb 17th, 2008 01:00 am by FC Falcons
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