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micheal
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Posted: Fri Jan 11th, 2008 07:49 pm |
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I don't understand why parents have to come to games loud and rude. Yelling at the coaches for no reason at all. I mean what is the deal. You are their to support your child I get that but it gets to the point where it goes over board. I don't liek the fact that they want to come and control the game or get mad when their child is taken out the game. There needs to be parenting rules for the parents.
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Jeannette98
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Posted: Wed Jan 16th, 2008 02:26 am |
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Sideline Behavior
- Children want cheerleaders to applaud their success, not adults yelling instructions. Think of the soccer field as a playground and not as a sports venue.
- What’s appropriate at a sport stadium with adult athletes is NOT appropriate for young children at play.
- Focus on the process of playing and not the outcome.
- Unlike the adult games, kids playing soccer do not see the other team as the enemy. The other team is full of their friends – friends from their school, their place of worship, their neighborhood. They
are likely to be playing together in your backyard or in your den after the game.
- Cheer ANY and ALL success on the field. It DOES NOT matter what player OR team. They are all kids and they want you there to see them play.
“A good way to determine whether the sideline comments are helpful and supportive is to ask the children what they prefer to hear on the sideline, if anything.”
Developing Decision Makers
Don’t keep score, the kids don’t regard it as that important.
Don’t care who wins or loses, they are having fun and that is the objective NOT winning or losing.
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soccertr
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Posted: Mon Jan 21st, 2008 02:39 pm |
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It is easily dealt with if you can get your league to use the new "happy soccer" booklet.
You can find it here...
http://www.blasttheball.com/happy_soccer_book.html
You are free to email this to all the coaches and administrators as well.
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SoccerDad
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Posted: Sun Feb 3rd, 2008 01:48 am |
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| Greetings - Very important topic. I find it seems to be an issue of ignorance, quite frankly. Most people simply behave the way they were taught to behave - in other words, they, as adults, are only repeating what they saw adults doing when they themselves were kids. So, yelling at the kids from the sidelines seems a perfectly natural thing to do. I do find, however, that in rec soccer, speaking to the parents about this and the importance of ONLY offering positive and encouraging comments does seem to help tone down the behavior a bit. Where I am really challenged with this is in competitive soccer - the parents seem to think that winning IS what it's all about (because this is a competitive club, afterall, right?) and therefore they seem to also think that shouting from the sidelines at the kids and referee is appropriate. How do you handle this?? Thanks!
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Jeannette98
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Posted: Sun Feb 3rd, 2008 02:13 am |
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| It is harder to convince competitive club parents to tone down their behavior because it is more about winning but maybe it would help if you told them that their behavior is distracting their child from concentrating on the game. When they yell out to their child- naturally the child can hear the parents voice and will focus on what they are yelling instead of the action that is happening in front of them. This happens because previously in their lives - if their parents yell at them - it's usually a bad thing, so the child assoicates their parents words as something negative that they are doing. By the time they comprehend what the parent is telling them - the actions on the field have changed and they have been pulled mentally away from their focus on the game. Yelling at the Referee can also have a negative effect on the game because Referee's are not super human individuals who can simply turn off their hearing or filter out all the negative comments coming at them. They may miss a call in favor of one team or another simply by being distracted. Hope this helps you and your screaming parents.
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